encouragement

Lean In [Book Review]

by Nursetopia on May 17, 2013

photo-14It’s not very often that I can say a book changed my life, except for one. I rarely think about a specific book every day. Yes, Lean In by Facebook Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg, is that amazing.

I think I take risks and “lean in” to my family, my job, my passions, but after devouring the book in a little over three hours while traveling, I realized my risks, my priorities, my decisions needed some adjustment.

“This book makes the case for leaning in, for being ambitious in any pursuit” (p. 10). Sandberg explains there’s no single definition of happiness as we don’t all want the same things in life. She discusses unwritten rules of gender roles in society, the “holy trinity of fear,” Imposter Syndrome/feeling like a fraud, and so many more topics that literally made me put the book down at several moments so my brain could digest everything.

I am sure the man next to me on my flight thought I was crazy because I was on the verge of tears many times as I read the book – the acknowledgement page (which I took a picture of a sent to my husband because – oh my goodness – captures the way I feel about my Love), each time I read the title of a new chapter – knowing Sandberg was going to “read my mail!,” accepting her calls to action, laughing and simultaneously cringing from her self-deprecating stories, knowing I’ve lived through many similar ones. I’m not going to lie; I likely didn’t help my flight neighbor’s behavioral health concerns for me as I may have actually laughed out loud on multiple occasions.

Lean In changed my view on many parts of my life. I have made several decisions over the last three weeks, since reading the book, that I definitely would not have done without Sandberg’s advice. Amazingly powerful book!

While there’s no mention of the nursing profession in the book, I found myself thinking of men within the nursing profession a lot as I read the book. There are many parallels.

Woman or man – You. Need. To. Read. This. Book.

Have you read Lean In? What do you think about the book?

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Be the Person You Should Be

by Nursetopia on May 16, 2013

“Simple” and “easy” are two very different concepts that people often mistakenly use interchangeably. Remaining poised in difficult times is a simple thought; it is by no means easy.

A recent Minute with Maxwell coaching video reminded me that poise is important. “Keep steady.” Oh, how I needed that one minute this week. Now for the “simple” application…oh my.

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Encouragement is Everything

by Nursetopia on May 15, 2013

EncouragementEverything

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Mary J. MacLeod, S.R.N., author of Call the Nursereceived her nursing training in the post-war United Kingdom. I have never had a guest post within the nearly three years of Nursetopia for several reasons. However, after reading Call the Nurse (which you should absolutey read!), I wanted to personally learn more from MacLeod; I wanted to hear her voice on nursing and her historical perspective of nursing. Below is what she shared. Enjoy!

My training began in 1949/50 and would be unrecognisable to the nurse of the 21st century. I imagine things will have changed similarly in those 60 years in the USA, but you will all know more about that than I do. (When I was in school, some of our examination questions began ‘compare and contrast….etc.’ Well, I think there is going to be more contrast than comparison in this little piece.)

Most young women, aspiring to take up nursing, attend college, obtain degrees or other qualifications and appear on the wards apparently fully fledged and very knowledgeable. And there is much to know! Ever increasing numbers of new drugs, advanced and inexorably advancing technology for diagnosis and treatment, the ability to take blood, give transfusions, tailor diets to conditions, iterpret X-rays, scans and so on. In many cases, there seems to be an overlap into the doctor’s world. One could say, rather cynically that nurses are paid less than doctors so why not have them do some of their tasks?         

MacLeod_WordsAnd among all this ‘clever stuff,’ where is the actual care of the patient, I wonder. Washing him, feeding him, making sure that he has water to drink, a clean and comfortable bed, any wounds dressed, drugs administered at the right time and properly checked, reassurances given, his record and plan for his ongoing care kept up-to-date so that nothing is ‘overlooked’ – the modern word for ‘forgotten.’

What am I really talking about here? Compassion, respect, discipline, and accountability, as well as knowledge. All the ‘clever stuff’ as I have called it, will not help a patient if he is dirty, thirsty, unfed, given the wrong drug, misnamed on his record, or ‘overlooked.’

Back to 1950. Our training was much less technical because, for instance, there were fewer drugs – penicillin and streptomycin were the only antibiotics available, less intricate surgery was done – heart surgery was in its infancy, brain surgery yet to come, and many cancers were considered inoperable. We had to rely on good nursing care to cure or alleviate many conditions so our training was tailored to that end.

We began training straight from school at 18. We were not the sophisticated young women of today with their own flats, their confidence and self-esteem, their concept of ‘rights’ – some even married. We came straight from home and found ourselves plunged immediately onto the wards. We were housed in a Nurses’ Hostel in tiny, unheated bedrooms and had to be in by 11 PM. We often worked 50 to 60 hours in a week, but we didn’t notice. (In fact, I have only just worked it out!) We were paid 5£ [~$7.68 current US] per month and no overtime. We expected nothing more.

Our uniform was supplied – starched dresses (how they rubbed), aprons, and caps. Hair had to be ‘off the collar,’ no jewelry, very short nails, regulation rubber-soled shoes. It was like boarding school – but with patients! We were roused at 5:30 AM by the housekeeper’s booming voice, ready to start at 6:30 AM. Late comers were sent straight to Matron! Our working day would include making beds, ‘doing backs’ to prevent bedsores, washing, feeding, injections, temperatures, B.P.s, prepping for ‘ops,’ dressing wounds, etc., but learning all the time. We had 30 or 40 beds in one huge room with beds down each side. No ‘disposables’ then like syringes, surgical receptacles, bedpans, etc. All these things were reusable and so had to be sterilized constantly. Cleanliness was paramount and there were fewer hospital-born infections then than now!

Every year, we had two months of college classes where we soaked up the more technical stuff, took, and hopefully passed, examinations. Most of all on the wards and in college, we learned compassion (if we did not already feel it), respect, discipline, and accountability. We did not talk of career opportunities or personal advancement. The nurse was there to NURSE with no thought for herself. Perhaps such attitudes were extreme, but, as always, the pendulum has swung the other way now, and it seems to be all about the nurse: her conditions of work, her pay, etc. But I hope most aspiring young women still feel a genuine urge to care for the young, the sick, and the old. (I won’t say ‘a calling’ as this implies a religious motivation – just a humane concern is all that is needed.)

My down-to-earth training stood me in good stead in the 70s when I was a district nurse on a remote Scottish island. Conversely, a more technical training is needed for the forefront of medicine, surgery and other specialised areas of care. I think we can combine both because that is the word – CARE.

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Blessed Hands

by Nursetopia on May 8, 2013

I work in a faith-based healthcare system that very much lives a mission rooted and growing in faith. I enjoy that. Nurses Week carries a stronger significance as chaplains throughout my healthcare system host special, voluntary services or even one-on-one moments to bless the hands of nurses who, as one chaplain explained, “were blessed by Someone far greater than I long before this moment of blessing.”

I had the privilege of participating in a blessing-of-the-hands ceremony this week alongside some of the very nurses I work with. It was a humbling moment – a sacred moment – as the chaplain physically touched, anointed, and prayed over our hands.

It meant a lot to me as I embraced the care another professional was giving to me, acknowledging hands that make the intangible – care, knowledge, and experience  - tangible.

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Transcending Trinkets

by Nursetopia on May 7, 2013

I realize many nurses opine about Nurses Week as if administrators are forcing hospital cafeteria cookies down their throats while simultaneously stuffing their scrub pockets with cheap pens and angel figurines (adorned with an iconic nurse’s cap, of course).

Nurses Week is actually much more than all of that surface-level stuff, though. Personally, I have the opportunity to shower some extra love on the nurses in my life – the family members, the friends, the coworkers who are a part of my nursing career. We have a bond that ties us. Don’t get me wrong, that bond can be ugly and frayed; it’s by no means perfect. But it’s ours – the sweet moments of care, the horrific shifts, the mundane moments – and I get to highlight it.

I get to say via word and deed, “I know how hard your life’s work is because I do it, too, and you rock it; you own it; this week is about you because you are seriously that amazing.”

Funny thing is, the more I focus on and build up the nurses around me, the higher I go, as well. I think the more I write, the more written words mean to me. I sat at my desk yesterday morning, reading words from a friend and nurse colleague that brought me to tears.

No administrator has ever given me such a gift as the sincere and secretive thanks of a nurse colleague, nor could I ever expect him or her to be able to. No, the best person to take care of a nurse during Nurses Week is a nurse. That transcends trinkets.

 

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Nurses Week 2013 Printable Card Roundup

by Nursetopia on May 5, 2013

Want to send a resounding (and stylish!) thank you to the nurses in your life this week? Here’s a list of freebies and low-cost ideas just for you. Enjoy!

They’re free. Give, give, give this week. Spread some love. The nurses in your life need it.

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Download, print, handwrite your message on the back, and give this card to your favorite triple-’threat’ nurse – perhaps during Nurses Week, which is May 6 – 12.

Triple-Threat Nurse

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You RAWK [Free, Printable Card]

by Nursetopia on May 2, 2013

“You rock!” is a favorite phrase of mine. It’s my kudos sentence of choice, and it’s usually accompanied by a high five, a dance of some sort, or lots of finger pointing. It’s only natural to incorporate it into a postcard that’s perfect for Nurses Week or any other celebratory moment. Download it, print it, give it!

You RAWK

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The Highest Form of Managerial Praise

by Nursetopia on April 29, 2013

Sincere praise is always good.

It spurs us on. It edifies our work. It strengthens our resolve. It can be expected, or it can be a surprise. It can be public, and it can be private.

Many people think of managers as giving praise, but managers need praise, too. I know; I am one. I’ve relished praise from many, and I say that because there’s one form of praise that supersedes all others, in my opinion.

The most sacred praise, for a manager, comes directly from the manager’s team members. When it’s sincere, it’s melting and humbling and propelling and energizing. There is absolutely nothing like it.

Melt your manager this week – not with laser eyes but with honest words of thanks and praise.

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